In many families, the entire family system has been organized by alcoholism.
Not every couple will or, for their own personal health should survive recovery. This could be a time of tremendous personal growth for all individuals involved or it could turn out to be a period of decline.
That begs the question, how will you survive your alcoholic spouse in recovery? A lot of people make assumptions about the relationship but when there’s drugs involved it’s up in the air as to what that person is really like.
A period of abstinence is important to know what that person is really like. Often married people who are drinking and using drugs, it turns out in recovery that they had a bad relationship because the marriage kind of consolidated around alcohol and drugs. A lot of times people get married, before there are alcohol and drugs.
Alcoholics rarely take the time to use sexual protection and thus further, risk their health by exposing themselves to sexually transmitted diseases.
After a drinking binge, anxiety and guilt set in and the alcoholic needs to have another drink.
What can a spouse expect when divorcing an alcoholic?
If you asked 10 different spouses who have gone through this experience, you may get 10 different answers.
Alcohol can be a deadly and dangerous substance for an alcoholic, who frequently exhibit an addictive personality.In the disease approach, the family members are treated with therapy separate from the alcoholic.This therapy encourages the alcoholic, the spouse and the family to reach outside the family for help.It is this author's contention that the approach for the female partner is as important in examination as that of the alcoholic himself.As Carl Jung stated: Seldom or never does marriage develop into an individual relationship smoothly and without crisis.