About six years ago when I was still a pastor I was sitting in my living room with members of my church who had come to talk about weaknesses in our church’s leadership and culture.The gathering came about following a sermon I had preached from 1 Peter 5:3 that says pastors are not to “Lord over” or be “domineering” towards the people in the congregation.
My grandparents would often ask why I wasn’t dating in high school.It was easy to label the critics “haters” and bask in the warmth of those who found my book helpful.But twenty years later, I regret that I failed to carefully engage with criticisms of my book. There are many factors but three reasons stand out. I started listening to hurting people in my own church.Every little girl has dreams, too: of being rescued by her prince and swept up into a great adventure, knowing that she is the beauty. And he invites women to discover the secret of a man’s soul and to delight in the strength and wildness men were created to offer.The message communicated here is a strict gender essentialism: The masculine heart is designed in the image of God so that boys and men may be strong and powerful, as how God made them to be.