It is a longing for love, a longing to have value in my mother’s life and a longing to feel like I mattered to her.
” I still fail to see what her health has to do with any of this. Do they mean that my mother is old so I should let ‘bygones be bygones’ and forget all about it? What does the fact that my parents are getting older have to do with any of this? This sick and dysfunctional family system has its roots in the universal and widely accepted belief that PARENTS have rights that their children DON’T have.
My “guilt, shame and self-blame button” was very sensitized. That is why I don’t see them; because I finally understood that I mattered ~ even if I only mattered to me.
My parents had their whole lives to make a positive difference when it came to me. I finally mattered enough that I stood up to the way that they treated me and said “no more”. Why doesn`t anyone ever ask my parents when they are going to give ME a break?
Working from those interviews and examining broad demographic indicators, Arnett proposed a new period of life-span development he calls "emerging adulthood." Arnett, a professor of psychology at Clark University currently teaching as a Fulbright scholar at the University of Copenhagen in Denmark, coined the term in his book "Emerging Adulthood: The Winding Road From the Late Teens Though the Twenties" (Oxford University Press, 2004).
He describes emerging adulthood as the time from the end of adolescence to the young-adult responsibilities of a stable job, marriage and parenthood and has made it the subject of a new APA book, "Emerging Adults in America: Coming of Age in the 21st Century," co-edited with Jennifer Lynn Tanner, Ph D.